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One Redditor has found himself at an impasse after his girlfriend did something he cannot forgive.
The 38-year-old original poster (OP) shared his story on theRelationship Advice subreddit, where he opened up about his 36-year-old girlfriend’s transgression.
“My partner and I have been living together for three years now and everything has been great until recently. Sadly, my grandma passed away a few years ago, and before she did, she gave me her family recipe book. This book was filled with secret family recipes that she trusted me with. I love cooking and absolutely lovedmy grandma’s meals, so this book means a lot to me,” OP began.
When he found himself in the mood to make one of the special recipes, he went to search for it and found it was missing.
“To my surprise, the page with the recipe was gone. I searched everywhere and found out that my partner had thrown it away, thinking the recipe waswrong,” he revealed.
According to OP’s girlfriend, “She said she didn’t know the recipe book was from my grandma and assumed it was just some old notebook or whatever.”
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“It wasn’t just a recipe … it had a piece of my family’s history,” he reasoned. “I tried to explain how important it was, but she didn’t care and said I couldfind another recipeonline and that I’m overreacting.”
While the girlfriend saw this as another fight, OP asked for guidance as to how he’d be able to move forward with the relationship.
“Her being so dismissive of my feelings upsets me. I’ve never seen her behave this way before. How can I move past this?” he asked.
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Many people pointed out the holes in OP’s girlfriend’s reasoning for getting rid of the recipes.
“Why do youwantto move past this?” one commenter asked. “Her answer is questionable at best. Seems far more likely she was jealous, or having feelings about your love for the recipe. Her being unapologetic is a big red flag. I’d be devasted if I did something like this accidentally.”
Another commenter agreed, adding, “Why couldn’t she just leave it there, even if it were ‘wrong?’ I’m not totally buying that explanation.”
“But regardless, if I had unwittingly threw something away that meant that much to my husband, I would be mortified, totally remorseful and trying to do whatever I could to replace or find another recipe,” they continued. “Her reaction is telling.”
source: people.com
