Photo:Ron Galella/Ron Galella Collection via Getty
Ron Galella/Ron Galella Collection via Getty
Rocker Melissa Auf der Maur is reflecting on her three-year relationship withDave Grohl, which she says ended on good terms after the pair realized they wanted different things in life.
The former Hole and Smashing Pumpkins bassist, 51, opened up about her romance with theFoo Fightersfrontman, 54, in a recent interview forSiriusXM’s Fierce: Women in Musicwith host Lori Majewski.
Auf der Maur and Grohl dated from 1999 to 2001, and she said that though they “were a very compatible match,” they ultimately craved different futures.
Melissa Auf der Maur and Dave Grohl.Ron Galella/Ron Galella Collection via Getty
“We had a beautiful love affair… We [were] both obsessed, committed to rock music, to the power of music, and both very non-drug addict, technically happy, highly functioning people,” she said. “So we were very similar, and in many ways, I think, our roles in Hole andNirvana[are] what subconsciously pushed us together.”
When the pair got together, Auf der Maur was leaving Hole, which she’d joined in 1994, and had begun touring with the Smashing Pumpkins. Grohl, meanwhile, was starting to find success with the Foo Fighters after previously serving as the drummer for Nirvana.
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“We were madly in love, but we also really recognized the turning point we were both at, as ‘90s musicians that were very close in age, [who] started very young in our small, cool hometowns in Montreal and D.C.,” she said. “And when we broke up in 2001, it was all love. It was purely like, ‘I love you and I want you to go do what you want to do and you love me and you want me to go…”
“I wanted to retreat from the ginormous corporate hell that our music scene had become, and he was not finished yet and had some more proving or ambitions or business to do,” she said. “I remember just saying, ‘Don’t you want to just settle down into a cool art scene in D.C. or Montreal and just like, be humans?’ His fire and his ambition was not…”
Dave Grohl with wife Jordyn Blum and daughters Violet, Ophelia and Harper Grohl.Axelle/Bauer-Griffin/FilmMagic
She continued: “And here we are, 20 years later, we’ve got what we wanted: He got to be the biggest rockstar in the world, and I got to be a small-town art factory hero.”
Auf der Maur eventually went on to marry filmmaker Tony Stone, whom she met in 2006, and the two share 11-year-old daughter River. The couple founded the nonprofit multidisciplinary art centerBasilica Hudsonin Hudson, New York in 2010.
source: people.com
